How do I get rid of a negative experience?
Question: “What is the best way to get rid of a negative incident? Do you meditate on it?”
Gisa: This is an interesting question. Let me start by saying that we cannot “get rid” of things and hope that they will magically disappear. While we may not know what negative experience you are facing, then our answer would depend on what this type of experience is.
If this incident is causing you anxiety and is almost traumatic, it is best to see a professional immediately. There are some things we cannot do alone. And if you are truly shaken by this experience then you would do best to see a mental health professional - particularly a psychologist / counselor - to help you get through this.
Where meditation is concerned, it is important to first be aware of HOW TO MEDITATE. Simply meditating on things (chanting affirmations or sitting in silence) won’t do much unless you are open to confronting what is meant to present. One easy meditation you can do is to start journaling how this making you feel, and understanding the circumstance of what just happened.
Once you’ve done this, you can take your meditation to the next level of offering yourself FORGIVENESS. How can you practice forgiveness on yourself? Can you apologize to yourself for getting into this circumstance? Can you accept forgiveness for making the choices you have made? And what is something you can say to yourself in compassion?
Finally, when you have processed the whole scenario, this is where you can start working on the “getting rid”... you can practice a forgiveness ritual known as HO’OPONOPONO. All you need to do is imagine the circumstance and silently repeat the following phrase towards it - “Thank you I love you I’m sorry please forgive me”. Repeat this up until you feel peace in your heart. If you still feel uneasy, don’t worry about it. The “getting rid” doesn’t happen over night. You will likely have to repeat this ritual on a regular basis before you truly feel peace in this. Be patient with yourself.
Remember, these steps are suggestions to dealing with circumstances that you feel you can manage. If you are shaken by your experience, please seek professional help. You may want to watch out for signs of distress and your counselor will best be able to determine if you will need further help.
